The Psychology of Wife Sharing

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Date: August 22, 2017 (1 year ago)


I stumbed upon this article while doing some "research". Least to say I was mildly surprised by this paragraph:

The royalty perk - In the 1960's Motown song, the line goes "save the last dance for me," as the husband watches his wife dance with other men. Many of the men I interviewed got a thrill, a sense of being "king" that they had a wife who was so sexy, that other men wanted to be with, but who ultimately came home with him, the husband. It made the men feel powerful and successful, that they had such a sexy wife.

It just reminded me of what I wrote about why Drei would want Amy to have sex with another man. Mind you, though the article was written a good 6 years before my story, I have never read it before today. And the fact that it was mentioned by a psychologist in a post on the website of a well known psychology magazine struck my as serendipitous.

Then reading through the other reasons got me thinking as well. Especially the part about voyuerism and a "pornified culture" that leads some men to fantasize about thier S.O.'s being sexually gratified by others.

Anyway, the author also wanted the article to start a discussion about this phenomenon. Although it focuses on the hot wife and cuckolding lifestyle, there is the inverse of this where the husband gets sh...

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MidLifeCrisis
August 22, 2017 (1 year ago)

Drei! Sus dumugo naman ilong ko sa post mo. Pero it's a good read, may natutunan akong bagong term "cuckquean".

Siguro pareho lang yong reasons for both genders pero wala pa akong nabasa na ang babae naman ang may fetish na ganito. Maybe because nature na naming mga babae ang pagiging selosa. Ayaw naming may ka-share. Giyera ang labas nyan. Pero malay natin mern dito cuckquean, antayin natin opinion nila :)

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LordDrake
August 22, 2017 (1 year ago)

Hehe, pasensya na Mid! Spoken in dollars kasi yung nahagilap ko, parang hindi kasi bagay na hind rin ako magspoken in dollars. :D

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Bebeko
August 22, 2017 (1 year ago)

It takes more than enough courage and confidence to both man and woman to share their partners. For me it's even when it comes to their reasons in allowing it to happen. Parehong malakas ang trip at pantasya at advance ang sexual orientation.

Nowadays, maybe in our society where gender equality is high that some women share their partners but always within the same set of rules na ginawa ng lalaki kung sila naman ang magshe-share ng asawa/gf nila.. Pero mas marami pa rin na lalaki ang nakakaisip nito kaysa sa babae. Mas bulgar pa rin ang lalaki sa ganitong pantasya. But it's possible.

Good job!

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LordDrake
August 22, 2017 (1 year ago)

Hindi kaya dahil sa kultura nating medyo sexually repressed ang kababaihan at ipinagbubunyi ang sexual prowess ng kalalakihan kaya mas bulgar ang mga lalaki sa kanilang mga pantasya?

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Bebeko
August 22, 2017 (1 year ago)

Sexual prowess ng kalalakihan ay due na rin siguro sa natural physical prowess over women. Idagdag mo pa nga ang nabanggit mo pati ang belief, upbringing, custom and all others kaya mas lutang ang ganyan sa lalaki. Kahit sa usapang sex at biruan ay mas bulgar pa rin ang lalaki kesa sa babae. Mas marami ring 'bahay-aliwan' na puro babae ang nandoon para magpaligaya sa lalaki. But to go back to your original question ay meron na ring mga babae na kapareho ng lalaki sa ganyan dahil na rin sa gender equality, women can really thrive sa present set-up ngayon and intellectually at par sila sa men. Hindi nga lang bulgar o kasing dami ng kalalakihan ang may pantasya sa partner sharing.

Good job!

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LordDrake
August 23, 2017 (1 year ago)

In a way tama ka, Sir. Mas bulgar tayong mga lalaki pagdating sa pagpapasikat ng ating mga sexual prowess. Although may ilang lady friends ako na umamin na kapag sila-sila lang ay mahaharot din ang sharing nila. May iba nga na parang wala lang rin. Gaya noong ex ko at mga college buddies niya. One time noong bago pa lang kami nung ex kuong iyon, kinukuwento nung isang college buddy niya yung recent ONS experience niya sa then GF ko. Habang andoon lang ako sa tabi. Na parang wala lang at matagal na kaming magkakilala. And maybe kaya ganoon sila ay dahil galing sila sa isang State U sa may Laguna na medyo liberated ang both genders.

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Bebeko
August 23, 2017 (1 year ago)

Drake, tama ka dahil marami-rami na rin talaga ang mga liberated women. They can also dump men if they want to regardless na may nangyayari sa kanila o wala.  Kaya marami rin ngayon sa mga guys ang nahihirapan na i-accept yon dahil sa ego at sa kultura.., but then they sort of try to calm themselves down by saying absurd things to justify whatever naglalaro sa isip nila para lang kumbinsihin ang sarili. Kasama na siguro yan sa progress and modernization.

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starst1949
August 23, 2017 (1 year ago)

Bro, it could also be a matter of cultural orientation stemming from the convention established by the  so called  "civilization" that dictates what is moral/legal and what is immoral/illegal.that also invented marriage.
Taboo, adultery, were part of cultural tradition in some communities before civilization.... In Alaska , before , native men will offer their "wife "to visitors as a gesture of hospitality.
Perhaps the restrictions imposed  on us  have made adultery, wifeswapping tabu, more appealing to some of us ..this is a universal phenom.
Masarap talaga ang bawal. Ibang klaseng high. Tanungin moko. Lol joke lng

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starst1949
August 23, 2017 (1 year ago)

Having said that,  ang tanong bakit may mga lalaking gustong pagamit ang asawa/partner nila sa ibang lalake?

Maraming reasons lalo na pag tinanong mo ay isang "shrink"  
underlying sexual insecurity,  latent homosexuality, bi-sexuality, inadequacy and..all that crap .malay mo baka hangover pa ang desire na ito  nuong past cultural orientation natin thousands of years ago. LOL  

I presume that most of this men are also into porn  kaya malamang tama ka , naka influence  kahit papaano.
Regarding the said "feeling of power"  common na na feeling proud tayo pag maraming attracted sa ating asawa. But that's not the main reason that led   some men to have their partners fucked by other men. kasi yung iba, galit at nagseselos. Baka mangaway pa.
The  increasing permissiveness in our society might have contributed to this practice.

The late 60s in the US...saw the increasing  number of  wife-swapping  clubs and also the so-called freelove/sex  among the hippie communes./subculture.

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LordDrake
August 24, 2017 (1 year ago)

Dito na ako mag-re-reply, kasi hindi na ako maka-reply doon sa isa mong reply Sir Starst.

For reasons to why may mga lalaking gutso pagamit sa iba ang asawa nila, check niyo yung article na binanggit ko sa blog. Naka-link sa word na "article" sa first sentence. It's by a psychologist, although it's based on just his own research into the phenomenon. agree siya sa sinabi ng colleagues niya, pero may ilang hindi siya sang-ayon. Anyway, it's a good read.

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LordDrake
August 22, 2017 (1 year ago)

Maidagdag ko lang. Napapansin ko lang rin kasi na dumarami ang mga submissions (erotica o confessions) dito at sa ibang kahalintulad na sites na may kinalalaman sa wife sharing/straying. Sa palagay niyo ba dahil din ito doon sa nabanggit sa article? O dahil ba sa kultura natin, sanay na tayo sa mga lalaking may asawa na humihindot pa ng iba (at gayo'y nakakasawa na)? Kaya tuloy nagiging taboo/bawal (at kaya mas "titilating") kapag yung babaeng may-asawa ang nagiging salawahan/humihindot ng iba?

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rmn07
August 22, 2017 (1 year ago)

Sa akin lang sir ah parehas, mapalalaki man o sa babae ang gagawa pero may consent o pagsang-ayon mula sa partner ang gagawin. Both of them eh mag- eenjoy. Pero kung lihim eh napakalaking kasalanan sa partner na ewn na lang kung may kapatawaran.

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Bebeko
August 22, 2017 (1 year ago)

Drake, siguro malaking bagay din ang sites na kagaya nito kung saan ay pwedeng magpost ang babae ng pantasya nila ng walang huhusga kaya may mga nababasa na rin tayo na confessions nila. May mga babae na naghahanap din ng ibang putahe o tumitikim din naman ng palihim ng hindi nasasakripisyo ang pamilya. Merong sumasabit at merong hindi.  Ang malaking kaibahan nga lang ay "malandi o kaliwete" ang babae kapag nabuking pero kapag sa lalaki ay "may babae" o "nambababae" na parang normal lang na gawin during the course of marriage.

Good job!

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heater
August 23, 2017 (1 year ago)

Unless the shift in cultural setting happens drastically, women openly exploring will take a backseat or atleast always play catch up

i'm not trying to be fit to be your fantasy, i just want to fit in my dress

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Hector1972
August 23, 2017 (1 year ago)

The shift is slowly happening. I believe that our country is still considered conservative in many ways. Other democratic and progressive countries where porn is legal ay may malaking chance that those people develop different types of fantasies kaya siguro sila rin ang na mga una sa porn sites at mga kalokohan.

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LordDrake
August 24, 2017 (1 year ago)

Well, the fact na hindi total sausage party itong site na ito goes to show na medyo nali-liberate na ang mga kababaihan. Although I guess it helps yung anonymity afforded by the interwebs helps.

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vintage_ichorid
August 26, 2017 (1 year ago)

Yeah, medyo mahirap pa dito satin, kung meron man, hindi masyadong lantaran dahil na rin sa social stigma. Nandun na rin yung common reasons like strict upbringing, culture, and religion that plays a part sa paghulma ng mind ng typical na Pinay na lumaki dito sa Pinas.

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