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Date: September 17, 2022 (2 months ago)


I'm in a 4 year relationship na and tbh I'm kinda tired. Sawa na ako sa mga pananakit nya verbally and physically. Lagi nya sinasabi sakin na wala ng tatanggap sakin na iba with my situation. I have 2 kids, both have different dads. What should i do?
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liandra
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

Hi sis! Una, what an unfortunate situation to be in. But hang on

You and the woman I know personally may not be in a very similar situation but she is also a single mom and her only kid even has special needs. She always thought daw na she will never meet someone na tatanggap sa kanya, lalo naman sa situation nya.

But you know what?

A man came into her life and he loves, accepts, and respects not only her but also her child. The man treats the child like his own and provides for them in every way he can as the head of the family.

My point is, meron at merong tatanggap ng situation mo no matter how imppssible it may seem for you. Baka yung ka relationship mo ang takot na wala nang tumanggap sa kanya and not the other way around.

It doesnt make you less of a person nor a woman kung single mom ka. Ang tatag mo nga eh. Only a real man can handle your situation, sis.

The moment he used his hand to hurt you is the very moment he showed you that he's not deserving to be called a 'man

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User Not Found admin
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

Wag matakot pakawalan ang isang bagay na hindi ka naman na masaya at nahihirapan ka pa. Mahirap gawin pero once you take that one step forward, kakayanin mo na the rest of the way out.

At wag matakot na wala ng tatanggap sayo. May kakilala ako, nakapag-asawa pa at 60. Eh 33 ka palang. Madaming nag-aantay sayo sa unahan.

May mga lalake na turn off sa kanila ang single mom, so what? Doon tayo sa tanggap ang buo nating pagkatao at handa tayong maging kabiyak ng buhay nila. Donโ€™t settle for any less.

Itโ€™s okay if you donโ€™t like me. I was not born to impress you.

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9791cloud
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

PAra po sakin, Pag may abuse na, alis na po! Walang tao na kelangan mag-suffer sa ganito, ke babae o lalake ka. Di ka nyan titigilan. Wag ka magtiis!

Makakahanap ka pa rin ng tunay na magmamahal sayo. Akala mo lang yan na wala.

At e ano kung wala ka mahanap na partner o asawa? Ituon mo nalang ang sarili mo sa pag-aalaga ng mga anak mo! Di mo kelangan ng partner para mabuhay sa mundo.

Kung may dumating na iingatan ka at mamahalin, good! Pero kung wala, wag ipilit. Marami ring advantage ang maging single. Kesa ganyan na nakaka-wawa ka, mas mabuti pang maging single!

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Rudeus-sama
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

Best course of action pa rin dyan pag ganyan eh hiwalayan na.
For the kids:
1. Para di nila maranasan lumaki na may nagbabangayan sa bahay. One reason usually bakit may di maganda childhood which could potential issues paglaki.
2. Mas mafocus pa ang atensyon mo to take care of the kids and wala nang additional cargo.

For you:
1. Mental health is priority. Lessen the burden and pressure sa sarili mo from staying sa toxic relationship.
2. I know this sounds difficult but who needs guys anyways, there are single moms out there naman na happy naman. Better be single mom vs a family living in toxicity.
3. If you really are looking for a partner, meron naman yan for sure. Just take time to heal and look at what's in front of you for now. Better be sure for the guy na din by hindi pagmamadali sa paghahanap

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KissMySass
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It happened to me a few years back and I know how hard it is to get out. I hope one day i-take advantage mo na kahit maliit na opportunity to get the fuck out.

Kahit na wala akong anak, yung ermats ko single mum din before sila magkakilala ng stepdad ko. He accepted me, loves me and sent me to uni. Bullshit yung sinasabi nyang walang tatanggap sayo. Merong right time and right man for you no matter what. Once a beater always a beater. Kahit ilang beses sya mag-sorry sayo, uulit at uulit yan. Big no no kapag may physical harm na. Pero mas tumatatak yung emotional and mental abuse. Mas masakit yun. No matter how good you are to them, doesn't mean they'll treat you the same. Tandaan mo yan.

You are stronger than you think. Kayang kaya mo yan. Kaya kung fed up ka na, I think it's time to let go. At the end of the day, no one can tell you what you can and cannot do but yourself. So good luck, doll. I'm rooting for ya. โ™ฅ

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qazplm
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

Hello. To answer your question, may tatanggap pa sa situation mo. So why? Bakit nya sinasabi yun? Yes to degrade you. Para hindi ka umalis sa kanya despite ng mga ginagawa nya. Para mafeel mo na useless ka at hindi mo kayanin ng wala sya. Sa totoo lang, baliktad talaga yan. Alam nyang walang tatanggap sa kanya sa ugali nya kundi ikaw lang kaya ka nya sinasabihan nun. Naiisip mo ngayon na baka nga ganun, baka hindi ka na makakawala. Ang isang bagay lang na mahirap gawin dyan ay kung mahal na mahal mo yung tao. Kasi kahit na ang hirap na ng situation, kung mahal na mahal mo, iisipin mo na baka kaya pa. Mahirap mag move on sa ganun. To the point na sasabihin sayo ng iba na sinasaktan ka na nga pero dyan ka pa rin. Pero walaย ย eh. Mahal na mahal kasi. Pero kung wala ka sa ganoong point at iniisip mo na talagang iwan kaso natatakot ka dahil sa situation mo na may 2 kids, sinasabi ko sayo, may tatanggap sayo. Mostly, hindi issue sa lalaki ang may anak or wala
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qazplm
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

Kaya kung hahanap ka next time, ifront mo na pag liligawan ka. May dalawa kang anak. Kung mag baback dahil sa ganun, hindi yun ang para sayo. Para sakin, stressful talaga ang situation mo ngayon. And I know, gusto mo na rin makaalis. Kungย ย tingin mo ay tama na, it's time to move on, then go na. Yun ay madali kung wala nang lingering feelings na natitira para doon sa tao na yun. Ayun lang. Sana ay makatulong

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mcdaddy
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

Di ko need ng kasama kung ganyan naman umasta. Kung mahal ka nyan talaga mamahalin ka kung anong meron ka at mga pinagdaanan mo. Mas magandang iwan mo na lang sya hindi din healthy yan sa part ng mga anak mo. Live your life to the fullest.

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mr.nightreader
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

tyka kung ikaw yung nsa picture mu ๐Ÿ˜Š tang ina madaling mgkakagusto syo n sobrang matino

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Marie.Angelica
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

Thanks sa mga payo mga sis. Takot din ako baka kung may gawin sya na masama sakin.

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Nick.ismaeL.69
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

from a man's point of view, if a guy can't accept you because of your kids, then that is not a man that's a boy. and yea let go of that dude you're with right now.

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Boldlang
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

Napaka beta male naman Yan statement mo hahah

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Pimp_304
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

Simp hahahaha

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Noodlenoodlenoodle29
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

Wag ka matakot..ย ย unahinmo Muna pahalagahan sarili mo.. pag buo kana .. Isa Isa pipila mga Yan .. problemahin mo nalang papano pipili

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jamirmo
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

hello po. wag mo hayaang abusuhin ka ng taong mahal mo. isipin mo yung makakabuti para sayo at para sa mga anak mo. hindi mo deserve ang ganung klaseng tao. lagi mo tatandaan lahat may nakalaan para sa atin. wag mong ubusin ang sarili mo sa taong hindi ka kayang mahalin at pahalagahan.

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ramza34
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

Kung natatakot ka may gawin masama sayo, ireport mo sa pulis, ipa tulfo mo!
Kung hahayaan mo ma abuso ka pa rin ng tuloy2x kahit na alam mong kawawa ka e may fault ka na dyan.
Kawawa din mga anak mo dyan. Hindi na magbabago yan wag ka magtiis! Tama na ang 4 years.
Pero nasa sayo pa rin yan, kung hindi ka kikilos walang manggayari sayo mam

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ramza34
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

Isa pa bakit ba kelangan may partner o asawa agad para mabuhay?
Di mo kelangan ng boyfriend o asawa agad. Alagaan mo mga anak mo!

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akosimok
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

Wag ka maniwala na wala na magkakagusto syo dhil sa age mo at 2 anak. Di rin yan dahilan para riisin mo pang aabuso syo. Wag mo unahin yun paghahanap ng kapalit nya. Unahin mo pagmamahal sa sarili mo at mga anak mo. Its not worth it to stay and be abused. Stand up fir your kids and for yourself. Dont be afraid to let go of a relationship that is no longer working. Wag ka magpaka martyr, wag ka magpaka tanga

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Mr.NightGuy
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

Pm sent.

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dadbodjson21
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

May tama tao para syo....

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LeonAguila
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

kapag minahal ka ng lalaki kahit sampu pa anak mo balewala na yon pakikisamahan ka pa rin wag mo lang sayangin

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patawad69
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

Gawin mong inspirasyon mga anak mo.. Wag mo isipin na kung may tatanggap pa sayo.. Isipin mo ay ang kinabukas ng mga anak mo humanap ka ng paraan para maitaguyod mo sila. Hindi mo kailangan ng partner para lang mabuhay tandaan mo lahat ng mga pinagdaanan mo tulad ng sabi mo 2 anak mo at magkaiba ng tatay.

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brock15
September 18, 2022 (2 months ago)

Yes turn off talaga. Auto pass ako sa may anak. Masarap lang sila sa kama pero kung seryosohang relasyon hindi. Dami responsibilidad. Dagdag hassle pa magkaiba tatay. Ginawa kang breeding farm. Hiwalayan mo na lang at wag ka na jumowa

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Lanabanana
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

Ay wow, ang asshole naman ng comment mo. Dahil sa mga tulad mo kaya may babaeng nagtitiis magstay sa relasyon kahit nasasaktan na. Kasi pinamumukha nyong wala ng tatanggap which is wrong. Hindi tunay na lalake ang ganyang mag isip. Hindi tunay na nagmamahal, puro libog lang ang iniisip.

We always listen but fail to understand.~~

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PlatinumDragonLord
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

Walang kaso yang age mo and if my dalawang anak ka na. This is just a matter of acceptance, kung talagang mahal ka ng lalake. Kahit ano pa ang nakaraan mo, kahit ilan pa ang body count mo, it won't matter kasi nga mas nangingibabaw yung pagmamahal

Although the root of every wrong could be traced back to us, I will not seek forgiveness for that, nor can I allow you to continue on your current path of destruction. That is why โ€” Perish

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Pimp_304
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

Nakakatawa yung mga ibang lalake na nag comment dito hahaha. Kaya niyo lang naman nasasabi yan kasi maganda yung babae e. Mga hypocrite virgin and simps. Kung hindi kagandahan yan sa tingin niyo ba sasabihin niyo yan sa kanya? Exactly. Kung ako magiging bago mong bf hindi ako papayag na hindi magka-anak sayo. Yes maybe i want to adopt those children of yours but if you wonโ€™t let me have a child with you, with my own blood, kalokohan yan.

Kung ako sayo? leave. May anak ka, wag kang selfish. Kahit sila na lang isipin mo wag muna sarili mo. Nanay ka na, hindi ka na teenager na pwedeng pumatong kung kani-kanino lang.

The more mileage the car has, the less valuable it is.
The older a car is, the higher the risk of breaking down.
The more previous owner a car has, the more damaged the interior.

To the young men out there, choose someone who has a low body counts (i prefer virgin)

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Pimp_304
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

3 things men should ask before commitment

1. What is her relationship with her father?
2. Would she make a good mother?
3. Is she being treated medication for personality disorder?


3 things what to look for

1. Her relationship with her father
2. Her circle of friends
3. Her past (body counts include)

Dm me on tg if you want to learn game. @playa679

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Your3rdyMate
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

Big deal ba pag mag anak na?. Hindi ba tanggap at tanggapin kung anu ang nakaraan?. Kailangan bang may nakaraan?. Well maganda ka naman base sa pic mo. You deserve to be happy. Kailangan mo ba talaga ng partner?. For goods?. Happy ka naman sa kids mo. Sila maging inspiration mo..

Pm mo ako char. Joke lang. Ingat dyan sa pinas. Be strong. Be happy.

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TerribleSmallG
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

He's maybe doing psychological abuse for his own benefit/sefish reasons. But Having 2 kids (different dad) and being 33yo is not a reason to not have a relationship. Thought most will settle without a partner. Still, it's a free world! If you get out of the relationship, then you will have a chance to finally know if you'll have a partner or not. Just my bit. :-)

All i know in a relationship is that, you and your partner should make yourselves better as one or together.

Daddy's little princess :-)

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Mr.M
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

Para matapos na e tara sa Tulfo ๐Ÿ˜†

Minsan na namatay pero muli nabuhay

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QSLeigh
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

If it's ruining your life and your kids, stop na. We dont need that. Mahirap mag-isa yes, kinaya ng marami including me, kaya mo rin, sure ako jan.Your family will be your strongest support system. Get strength from your children. Hugs you tight sis!

For every strength, there is a weakness. You are both

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arahasiR012
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

You should take action regarding sa abuse na ginagawa nya. Thats not even a questions, need nya managot sa part na yun. I hope you find the courage na kumalas sa abusive at toxic na relationship not only for your sake but for your children na rin.
Regarding sa date/relationship scene bilang single mom I think you should be more understanding din sa perspective ng lalake. And thats what I wanna offer. Not to justify or to discourage you but just to share my personal opinion as a man.
1st of all, 2 kids with 2 dads is going to be tough to accept , kahit sinong lalaki makilala mo isipin mo na agad na malaking desisyon yun para sakanya and need mo sya bigyan ng time para isipin kung kakayanin ba nya mainvolve sa ganung situation. But its not impossible na makahanap ka ng matinong guy na tanggap ka. But if some guys decide that its too much to handle sana hindi mo din sila ijudge and think less of them because of it.

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arahasiR012
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

Imagine a scenario na makahanap ka ng bagong guy and have another kid. paano ngayon kung yung mga ex mo makahanap din ng bagong partner and magkaron din ng mga bagong anak? So yung third child mo has two older siblings each with their own uniqe set of siblings sa kanikanilang father side naman. diba medyo magulo yun? and maybe that could scare some guys out there. And hindi mo din naman sila masisisi. Now if ever you find another man and I hope you do. Please see to it that he also cares for your kids. In fact I would argue na dapat nga ang hanapin mo eh yung mas mahal pa nya yung mga anak mo kesa sayo. Again although this is not impossible sana maunawaan mo that this could scare some men too.
Imagine the heartache of a failed relationship. Masakit mawalan ng taong minahal mo diba? Now imagine sa side ng lalake naman. If ever he dates you and di kayo magkatuluyan? Paano kung napamahal na ung mga anak mo sakanya? He will feel pain like hell. Thers nothing wrong about being scard of tht.

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arahasiR012
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

Lastly I hope that if ever na hindi ka makahanap ng bagong guy na matino, eh wag ka magsettle for another abusive guy or worse dont try to go back sa previous partner na nanakit na sayo. Also wag ka din magssettle sa mga kuloks na relationship offers dito. Maghanap ka ng tamang relasyon. Mas mabuti nang wala kesa mali. Im sure you can find joy in your kids. Use them as your strength. I hope may update ka someday na post saying na naging masaya ka and nakahanap ka na ng bago at nakatagpo ka ng happy ending. And iccongratulate ka nila and say na masaya sila para sayo. Hopefully sila nalang dahil sana wala na ko dito nun hahaha. God bless kapatid. Stay strong.

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ramza34
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

Daming comment, daming concerned kay ms. Cannot letgo. Sana nirereplyan mo rin naman kami hahaha

Pero alam mo naka-dalawang baby ka na sa magka-ibang lalake, sana kilatisin mo na mabuti sobra ang susunod ng relasyon mo.

Tsaka ulit, hindi mo naman kelangan magkaroon agad ng asawa o boyfriend para mabuhay. Lalo na kung aabusuhin ka lang din uli. Kung wala kang gagawin na aksyon o lagi kang pumipili ng nang-aabuso sayo e may unti kang problema.

Ngayon asikasuhin mo muna mga anak mo pag nakawala ka na! Wag yung boyfrend agad!

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Marie.Angelica
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

Salamat po sa mga comment. Na appreciate ko po lahat pasensya na po di ko kayo ma sagot isa isa. Uunahin ko na po muna mga anak ko, salamat po sa mga payo.

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Archer580
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

Putting up with a toxic relationahip will never be good for you and your kids. Add mo pa yung emotional blackmail. Walk away if you can. Pero you never said anything if financially dependent ka at kids mo sa kanya

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ramza34
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

Thank you sa response mo author!! Ingat palagi at mahalin mo sarili mo para sa mga anak mo.
Godbless and good luck to you

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jarhead18
September 19, 2022 (2 months ago)

ginagamit nya weakness mo, so ikaw naman ayaw mo maglet go kc ganun talaga. walang kwentang lalake yan. Hanap ka nalang madami dyan. Boys are hunters from the mountain. My tatangap at tatangap sayo dyan kahit my dalawa kang anak. hanap kang lalakr yong maglilift yo sayo hindi yong hihilahin ka pababa. Wag ganun. Sentido comon.

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luekeye89
September 20, 2022 (2 months ago)

Nako ma'am, mas mabuti pa ata umalis ka sa puder niyang partner mo ngayon.
Kasi baka pati mga anak mo madamay pa sa pananakit.

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skyruz
September 21, 2022 (2 months ago)

Life is too short to spend your time with him.

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h0rnyd4ddy69
September 21, 2022 (2 months ago)

Wag matakot makipaghiwalay. I'm in a 20+ year relationship with a woman separated from her husband she has been with for 7 years, & who abused her physically. She had 3 kids with him. Huwag mo na hintayin kids mo pa ang sakta .

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bad_daddy1
September 21, 2022 (2 months ago)

if you feel abused, let go na. wag mo hanapin ang relationship, kusang darating yan

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