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Date: August 17, 2014 (8 years ago)


Hi FSS citizens!

I'm a newbie here pero I am enjoying the stories and the people here so far. Ang daming mga interesting kausap and mga nice chatters sa chatroom. I would like to ask for your help sana in a friend's sensitive situation. Seeing as we read incest stories here and talk about sex na hindi natin ginagawa sa labas, I thought this would be an appropriate avenue for this.

My friend is in her late 20s, single, working, living with her parents. One time she caught her dad crouching outside the bathroom she just vacated. Sabi daw ng dad nya, chinicheck lang yung gas kasi parang may leak. She didn't mind it although wala naman daw siyang naamoy na gas leak. Then it happened 3 more times, sakto nagsa-shower or peeing sya. And everytime her dad would give her a different reason kung bakit sya nandun, kesyo parang may patay na daga daw, may leak yung sink, etc.

A couple more times she heard her dad coughing and sounded as if he's right outside her bedroom door. Note that she heard this in the middle of the night, around 2 or 3am and yung bedroom nya, nag-iisa lang sa pinakataas na storey ng bahay nila. She's experimenting din kasi, sexually, she would have phone sex with a guy and everytime they would finish, she would hear her father's distinct coughing sound (I met her dad and hab...

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somebodyuused2know
August 17, 2014 (8 years ago)

Ang hirap niyan. Siguro best thing is for your friend to seek professional advice, taking into consideration that her dad might be emotionally weak if not unstable. Mas maganda nang macover o ma-weigh lahat ng aspeto sa ganitong sitwasyon. And act fast before it really gets out of hand. Sabi nga prevention is better than cure, mas mabuti na ang nag-iingat by acting on it asap kesa pare-pareho silang magsisi.

You would be your friend's source of strenght, she's lucky to have you.

"Go find someone else to feed your ego. I'm busy."

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nerdysuperbabe03
August 17, 2014 (8 years ago)

I am trying to contact a friend who is a psychiatrist as I type. Thank you for this suggestion :)

And I wish I can fill in the role of a good friend at this time, ako lang kasi pinagsabihan nya and obviously she can't tell anyone from her family.

Salamat again for the suggestion :)

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antoinette
August 17, 2014 (8 years ago)

she is in her late 20s what is she doing in her parents house?.. she must get her own place.  Yong malibog na babae nakaka-akit maski sarili nitong kamag anak.

i wanna run to you... ohhhh

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nerdysuperbabe03
August 17, 2014 (8 years ago)

I am mentally kicking myself for posting this here because of comments like yours pero what's done is done so I'll just take the crap and learn my lessons.

She is still living with them because she is the family's breadwinner. Renting a separate place would hurt her already tight budget.

She is still single, never had a boyfriend and I believe the passionate and strong woman inside her secretly wants to be in a relationship now but is afraid because of her responsibilities sa pamilya niya.

But thanks for your comment anyway, taught me a hard lesson but effective, nonetheless.. :)

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Bebeko
August 17, 2014 (8 years ago)

Nerdy, okay ang blog mo at may napapag usapan.

Ganyan ang kultura natin. Ipinapasa sa anak ang responsibilities instead na "help" lang dapat. Ang masakit pa kapag sa isang tao lang ang magbubuhat ng lahat sa halip na magtulung-tulong.

Emotional blackmail ang ibabanat kapag umalis siya. Kakalimutan lahat ng naitulong at tatawagin pang ingrata. Unfair di ba? But she has to learn. We all have to learn from this na "huwag kakalimutan ang sarili". Plan your life and not other people or situations ang magpaplano para sayo.

"You learn nothing from life if you think you're right all the time." - Prof. Richard Feynman

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Aboitiz
August 17, 2014 (8 years ago)

Try nya kayang kumuha ng ibang bahay... its much easier i think... May trabaho naman sya diba and of legal age... Makakatulong pa yon sa pagiging independent nya without hurting anyone... Tama rin si miss some kailangan ng professional advice  sa actions nga dad nya... di naman kasi dapat iwasan lang ang mga ganong problemA...

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inang.grasya
August 17, 2014 (8 years ago)

I thought his father worked abroad. Wala bang ipon para masustain daily needs nila in case lumipat ng tirahan friend mo?

Minsan may mentalidad tayo na kapag breadwinner sa pamilya, mamamatay sila oras na magsarili. Ganyan ako dati. Walang naiiwan na kita para sa sarili dahil binibigay ko sweldo sa pamilya. Humihingi lang ako pambayad sa labada at kasera dahil sa field ako. Iniwan ko ATM sa bahay pero darating din ang panahon na kailangan mong mamuhay independently. Mahirap sa una pero likas na sa tao na gumawa ng paraan para mabuhay.

I suggest kausapin nya ng mahinahon na gusto nyang "subukan" mag sarili para iwas sama ng loob kung ang kakaibang kinikilos ng tatay nya ang idadahilan nya.

Amazona kung tagurian pero malambing naman.

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Bebeko
August 17, 2014 (8 years ago)

If the father is emotionally fragile then plan to leave ASAP. Make a reason to leave, kahit anong reason basta telk her to live independently.

Wala na akong nakikita na matibay na dahilan to stay in that freaking house. Anuman ang gawing pigil ng parents sa kanya ay wag sana siya maging emosyonal. Time will come kase na baka mawala respect nya sa tatay nya lalo na kung magkabukingan. Trauma yan na dadalhin nya for the rest of her life.

Nasa late 20s na siya at may mga kapatid at magulang. Magtulung-tulong kesa sa iasa lang sa isang tao ang gastusin. May buhay sya na dapat harapin and future family na dapat buuin. I think she's smart enough to know this. Lakas na lang ng loob ang kulang sa kanya.

"You learn nothing from life if you think you're right all the time." - Prof. Richard Feynman

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emilia_jane
August 17, 2014 (8 years ago)

Your friend's problem with her father'S behavior is reason enough to leave home and live independently. Hindi naman nya talikuran ang responsibilty nya. She needs peace of mind, sense of security. Professional help is really needed.

But kung nagwork abroad for many years ang dad nya, bakit emotionally fragile? For sure, if he is, he won' t be able to leave home that long. Hindi kaya dahilan lang for her not to leave and stay in that hell hole?

Seduce my mind and you can have my body...find my soul and I am yours forever...

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LibrongUod
August 17, 2014 (8 years ago)

4 A's in Coping Up With Stress

A-void the Stressor
A-lter the Stressor
A-dapt to the Stressor
A-ccept the Stressor

Hope that helps. ;)

I Master, I Universalize, I Believe.

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LibrongUod
August 17, 2014 (8 years ago)

Summary lang po ng mga comments. :P

I Master, I Universalize, I Believe.

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boy123
August 17, 2014 (8 years ago)

it is best to seek professional advice. :)

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darkcipher
August 17, 2014 (8 years ago)

nakakatakot nga.

minsan, ang prob ay wala sa labas, nsa loob.

if hndi nya kayang mapagbago ung erpat nya, baguhin nya ung kaya nyang baguhin. . .sarili nya.

"The character's attitude is more important than plot." - Stephen J. Cannell

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Chrysanthemum
August 17, 2014 (8 years ago)

Cut the rope or keep it hanging through the neck then suffocate to death. ^_^

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Brochador_6988
August 18, 2014 (8 years ago)

Find a GF for your dad para mawala sau attraction nya whatever. or move out. best way to do it. live on your own. or try to read aloud a story of incest rape wherein your comment would be to have the offender jailed for the rest of his life. maybe it would scare the hell out of him. also you might be dressing too sexy but since you are at home , you have not noticed it.

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NOKIA
August 19, 2014 (8 years ago)

Mang Kanor ba name ng tatay nya? PAKTAY tayo dyan! hahah
Kidding aside.. lagi nyang bilhan o regaluhan ng BIBLE, or any
religious items, cards, or reading materials yung tatay nya.. bka
sakaling makunsensya at tamaan ng hiya at takot sa diyos..

btw: pag nkikipag SOP sya, lagyan nya ng radio malapit sa door para
di masyadong madinig ng tatay nya yung usapan.. pero paopen mo
yung radio huh bka naman maglagay nga sya kso wala nmang sounds
hahah.. iwas din sya maligo ng late night, madaling araw o nag iisa..
paglabas ng cr dapat nkabihis na. wag mag shorts, sleeveless o manipis
para iwas tukso haggat hindi pa niya kayang bumukod.. & last bka
pwedeng pakilala mo sakin friend mo pra friends na din kme..heheh PEACE

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starst1949
August 20, 2014 (8 years ago)

leave the house pronto! you'll never know what your father could do given his state of mind. you don't deserve  this ikaw na nga ang bread winner ng family.   Avoid being alone in the house with him. he is emotionally unstable?  bah! the way thing are going you'll be more unstable than your father living in such an environment.  you'll be a nervous wreck sooner than you think.

leave the house!  don't be a sucker for emotional blackmail. hey will get by. You will too! mahirap sa una pero kailangan.  kahit room lang kumuha ka.

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