Is not an easy task to do.
There are a lot of mental and emotional preparedness that will be needed to pull this off.

You will also need to have an understanding new partner if you will want to continue relations outside of your already committed one.

Truth be told, there are things that must be done to do your best to cover your tracks.

There is such a thing as pheromones. This gets secreted by our bodies in order to attract potential mates.

During intimate lovemaking or close contact with someone you are attracted to, this leaves trails on your clothes, skin and basically where you have been touched closely.

This "pheromone scent" can be quite hard to mask if one is not aware of certain things.

After helpful research from helpful people in FSS, I have compiled some facts about secret relations and how it can, possibly (i.e., not categorically), let you get away with it.

1. The scent can be picked up by...

Oh yes. I admit. There are many times when I think that, heck, I am 40 and married and with no kid:

"what if i were still single until now?"

Things that are playing in my mind when I look back.

What if I went on as a "Lone Ranger" so to speak and went on along the road of being always "available," what kind of life will I have? Will I be enjoying it?

Will there be people with like minds and beliefs who I can hang around with and enjoy the same freedom, if you catch my drift?

Or will I eventually look for one who I can spend my life with?

Will I begin looking for that stability?

Will I be longing for companionship?

These are musings from my mind, questions I have and things that are going to remain as...thoughts. Until some change does take place years after.

These are also questions I invite you all to think about and try to see yourselves in 10, 20 or 30 years from now.

Ano sa...

Timing is important - couple that with understanding of what are possible for you at the moment - then you both can carry out the feelings of care and love between you two. Just the 2 of you. And make it grow.

It will be unconventional; but this not a discussion about norms.

What you think of, feel about and do for each other must be for the other's growth, peace of mind and happiness in what you share, albeit in secret. This will help you both ensure that things between you two make you better people.

This will not be understood by many, but what you both share is not a question whose answers depend on the views of more than your pair.

Getting this out in the open will raise eyebrows, start hushed conversations and may make you the topic of others' discourse.

Hold on to each other. You both decided that this is for you at this time and it feels right, though you must always do your best to keep the joy between you two.

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There are but these to keep in mind
When loving and caring for her as the one you'd want to be with for life.

Make her feel like she is yours
and you are hers
The best kind of feeling comes when this is the truth you share.

Make her feel that she is precious
Endear yourself to her
Not with random endearments
But with the one that she adores.

Make her feel loved by keeping
Promises and fulfilling them
Each day that pass she is the one
Whose heart you must be protecting.

Make her feel desired
With every breath, words and acts
From which she draws feelings
That makes her lovingly react.

Make her feel honored
As you show that you respect
All the choices in many aspects
That she may always feel favored.

Make her feel all the pleasures
That can make her world be filled
With color that her mind and heart Will be assured and reassured.
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This is a confession that no one else in the family knows about, save for my wife and now all of you:

Our male househelp abused me sexually when no one was around when I was in 2nd grade.

My sunny, friendly demeanor changed into a boy who could not relate well with people and then with a skewed view of what sex was like.

I totally understand how people who got abused feels like, why they don't tell on their abusers right away. There is that guilt, because the body felt pleasure when your mind knows it was all wrong.

Please be supportive of people who open up to you and tell you of their ordeal.

I dont know where this criminal is and I am not aware of how the law works in this instance.

Probably, how I have been sexually abused had affected me in many ways. Also, the way I trust people is impacted, so I have many acquaintances but have formed not too many deep friendships because of the trauma at the back of my mind....

Parang kelan lang since I started writing and interacting with people here in FSS.

All I can say is, "Thank you," sa pagiging accommodating at sa pagging discrete din with me.

It is really important to keep our horny side have an outlet, otherwise, mahirap kung laging napipigilan.

I appreciate those who have asked me questions. Sana yung mga sagot ko sa inyo were equally satisfying.

Also, I appreciate those who allowed me to make them "happy" even if online. Thank you for trusting me.

I also want to thank those whose imagination greatly aroused me as well and allowed me several minutes as we both reached climax.

Maybe, hindi lang ako naka-experience nito sa FSS, maybe ako lang. Regardless, the community we created, where our open-mindedness allowed us to enjoy and explore online intimacy, is one that I am grateful for this year.

If there is anything that I can do for anyone of you here in return, let me know....

True enough, men are visually stimulated. To sustain the attention you get, there are some more components that are needed to seal the deal.

Get ready ladies, this may be the set of tips you may be on the lookout for here in FSS and the Mindgasm is happy to oblige.

1. Conversation. It does not have to be a topic that you have prepared. All it takes is to start with a question like, "how was your day?"

2. Laughs. There are times when men will do their best to be funny. You don't need to give a fake laugh. Although, you can still react to what was said, acknowledge it and then if you feel like adding to the banter, go right ahead.

3. Flirtation. This can be as simple as a brush of the hand on our arm. Trust me, gentlemen usually will hold back on touches to not appear as too forward to the lady so as not to scare her away. With that little touch of your skin, that makes men more comfortable to be more touchy, too.

4. Companionship. I...

Yes, you read that right.

Sex chatting is more than a series of "uhhhs, ahhhs and sige pa,".

There is an art to the way the words you send to your partner are meant to evoke feelings of arousal and wanting for more.

Our brain has a very primal function of keeping us all safe. It is the one that tells ourselves that, "oh, ano yan? di ko alam yan, baka delikado."

This is the job of the "fight or flight" mechanism inside our brain.

Now, when aroused, or to use a more plain term, "horny," the hormones in our brain that make us feel that we are seemingly ready to let go of this defense mechanism and allow us to wallow in the sexual fantasy that seem to seep through to our reality are what makes us searching for this kind of high.

Which is why, in most cases, sex chatting has the feels of it being really happening when it is done right.

The question that begs some answering then becomes, "How the heck do you do it t...

Being thankful goes a long way.

Moreso if you are getting close or have already gotten close to someone here in FSS.

There are things shared to each other. Be thankful for those. That means you have been entrusted with something intimate and private.

Keep what had been shared just for yourself, unless you agree that you can talk about them openly.

Be thankful for the times you get to be said hello to, messaged, or in the chatroom, whispered to. If external messaging apps are needed to talk to each other, then be mindful of when you agree that you can be on it at the same time to talk (especially if you have reasons you need it to be kept under wraps, otherwise, good for you if you are single and free to mingle).

Consider that the time shared with you by anyone who you chat with here in FSS is a privilege.

Stay happy and safely be forming connections all the time.

Thank you!...

Not sure about you but I have also seen other guys online admit to feeling guilty after cumming from masturbation.

Yes, there is the excitement, most definitely, but right after, when you do it alone with no partner, virtual or otherwise, it leaves a feeling of emptiness.

This probably is a result of hormones, a result of a sudden drop in dopamine levels in the brain or if there is another way to explain this downer, I am looking for an explanation why this is.

So, lucky you if you have a partner to share the experience with.

Doing it alone is what can give that loneliness after the mad rush to climax.

Ever felt the same? Let me know in the comments section below.

I believe that the ladies do not experience this low as often as men do.

Though I may be wrong. I have not explored this occurence in detail yet....