Writings about better sex (7)
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Your pre-sex routine takes longer than the act itself

Submitted by on September 6, 2012 (4 years ago)
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Your pre-sex routine takes longer than the act itselfWhy it might mean you're bad in bed:
Picture it: Your man is lying in bed, ready and waiting, and you're in the bathroom brushing your teeth, taking out your contacts and washing off your makeup. Guys hate this! Having sex with you is a major priority for them, and they want you to feel the same way. When your beauty beauty routine comes before he does, well, it just kills the moment.

Be better in bed:
Try to do part of your bedtime beauty routine when you get home from work, so later on things can just happen naturally with your guy. Or better yet, save it for after he falls asleep. (And seriously, would it kill you to sleep with your makeup on once in a while?) If you absolutely must touch up your makeup or lather lotion to feel comfortable getting down, do it a sexy way: Invite him to apply that lotion while your legs are spread in front of him, or put on lipstick and go down on him right away, so he can see the color on his shaft....

You talk about how your ex was in bed

Submitted by on September 3, 2012 (4 years ago)
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You talk about how your ex was in bedWhy it might mean you're bad in bed:
Yikes! According to Gentry, this is one of the worst things a woman can do in the sack -- even if your current sweetie stacks up favorably. Your guy doesn't want to be compared to his predecessors. He doesn't even want to think about his predecessors -- just like you don't want to think of the women in his past!

Be better in bed:
Flattery goes a long way with guys, so tell him he's the best you’ve ever had or point out specific things he does exceptionally well. Murmur "I love it when you…" while you're really starting to get heated. And if your ex really was a love god, then you might have to get creative. Say something like, "I've always wanted a guy to wake me up with oral sex" casually to your current guy. He'll want to be the one to fulfill your fantasy "first," and you'll get the bedroom action you're craving without talking about the lame ex-boyfriend....

You hang around in your sweatpants

Submitted by on August 31, 2012 (4 years ago)
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You hang around in your sweatpantsWhy it might mean you're bad in bed:
We're not suggesting you start vacuuming in a red lace nightie, but men are visual creatures, and your honey will notice if you stop trying to look sexy for him.

Be better in bed:
"Pay attention to how you look, and don't get too comfortable,” says relationship and sex expert Ian Kerner. "They may not always verbalize it, but men appreciate a woman who tries to look sexy for them -- it shows she’s interested. Of course you should dress however you like -- but making more of an effort to show off the goods your guy loves can go a long way. So if he adores your tiny waist, wear more belts that show it off. If he loves your cleavage, wear a form-fitting V-neck. And yes, invest in some sexy lingerie. One night when it's just the two of you for dinner, put it on under your sweats. Then, as he's helping clear the table, announce: "It’s time for dessert!" and surprise him with a sexy striptease....

You jump out of bed the second it's over

Submitted by on August 30, 2012 (4 years ago)
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You jump out of bed the second it's overWhy it might mean you're bad in bed:
We know you need to clean up when the party's, um, over, but really, don't run right to the loo the minute the deed is done. For one thing, it's essentially sending your man the message that you think you two just did something sort of icky. For another, guys actually like that intimate cuddle time, says Gentry, so "getting up immediately and running to the bathroom is a big buzz kill." And don't take offense if he drifts off to sleep -- that's just a sign he’s super-satisfied.

Be better in bed:
Take advantage of the quiet time and pay him a compliment. Don't gush and blow smoke up his you-know-what, but rather, get specific. Say, for example, "It was amazing when you rolled me over and got on top." Giving him a gentle rubdown is also a great way to prolong his buzz and your intimacy -- and it may just lead to round two!...

You're not into oral action

Submitted by on August 29, 2012 (4 years ago)
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You're not into oral actionWhy it might mean you're bad in bed:
Do we really have to tell you why? We've yet to meet a guy who didn’t love getting -- and giving! -- oral sex. So if that's not your bag, know that your guy is probably wishing it were -- and is pretty bummed that it's not.

Be better in bed:
What's the issue? Make oral action part of your bedroom repertoire, stat. In fact, the next time your guy is aimlessly surfing the web, start going down on him without saying a word. If you're unsure of your technique, a little primer in how to give an amazing blow job might be just the confidence boost you need. (Trust us, he'll thank you!) And if you're worried about your own nether region, just remember that most guys says going down on their partner is a huge turn-on....

The Bedroom Looks Like Your Office

Submitted by on August 28, 2012 (4 years ago)
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Why it might mean you're bad in bed: 
Nothing sends a guy’s libido plummeting like reminders of stressful work life. "So keep your daily grind and any symbols of real-world responsibilities (like computers, stacks of bills and buzzing blackberries) out of the boudoir," says Cynthia Gentry, author of What Men Really Want in Bed and What Women Really Want in Bed.

Be better in bed: 
"Reserve your bed exclusively for sleep and sex," says Gentry. “Which means resisting the urge to curl up with the latest office memo." (We've yet read an office memo that's a turn-on!) Or, do some sexy reading instead: Pull out the Kama Sutra, an erotic best-seller or some good old fashioned Anais Nin and read out loud to each other....

Female Masturbation: The Benefits

Submitted by on April 20, 2012 (4 years ago)
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Female Masturbation: The BenefitsSo far we have dealt with the 'who' and the 'how' but now we turn to the 'why'. Why do girls masturbate? The simple answer, which is good enough for many, is that it is pleasurable, but that excludes many of the recognised and claimed benefits. Below is a short list of the more significant of these:

1. Its pleasurable - it had to be number one!

2. It helps you relax - safer than tranquillisers, cheaper than alcohol and no side effects.

3. It helps you get to sleep if you are suffering from insomnia

4. It can make you feel 'energised' and focused, making study or concentration related tasks easier

5. It gives a degree of relief from the physical discomforts many feel during periods

6. It allows you to find out what you like so that you can share your needs with a partner and have better sex

7. It is always available when sexual tensions need releasing - not always true of partner sex

8. It allows you to have as much gratification as you want, when you want it and at your speed - partner sex cannot compete

9. It takes the pressure off your partner as he/she is not the only source of your orgasms

10. It is the one form of sex with no risk of disease, pregnancy or emotional upset

11. It fits in with your life - unlike partner sex

12. It often results in more powerful and longer orgasms than other forms of sex.