The Gatekeeper Theory

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Date: January 23, 2016 (2 years ago)


I'm a believer of what I call the Gatekeeper Theory. I first came across this while channel surfing and stumbled upon an episode of Cougar Town, wherein they discussed that women are gatekeepers in a relationship. This started the seed of this theory.

My issue with what was said in CougarTown is that it restricted gatekeepers to women. I think that gatekeepers can be of any gender, including those who associate to being LGBTs.

Anyway, the basic premise of this theory requires two persons. Lets call them A and B for now. Like I said earlier, both A and B can be of any gender. Now let's have A making advances towards B, whether because A is courting B or because they met at a bar and are both looking for a one night hook up or anything in between. Because B is in the receiving end of the advances, let's imagine a fence surrounding B and that there is gate on this fence which is being guarded by B. So B, being the reciver of the advances of A, is the gatekeeper. So B now has to decide whether or not to allow A past the gate and into the fence. If B is amenable to A's advances, then s/he says yes and allows A past the gate. If B says no, then the gate is kept closed and A stays outside the fence.

Further points to remember in this theory are:

1. If B says no, then A can't jump or knock down our imaginary fence and gate. Because if A does so, that now counts as rape.

2. If at anytime B is drugged by A, then that counts as also "jumping the fence" and thus counts as rape.

3. If B is a minor, it understood that B has no faculty to properly decide whether or not to allow A past the imaginary gate. In this case it is now statutory rape.

4. Even if A is now inside the imaginary fence, s/he is still subject to the rules and regulations of B. Any violations to these rules and regulations can subject A to being thrown out of the gate. Fighting to stay inside the imaginary fence is considered rape.

5. A and B are interchangeable because whoever is on the receiving end of the advances is the gatekeeper. For example, if B were to suddenly make advances/suggestions, s/he becomes A and A now becomes B.

6. Both A and B can be more than one person. That is, A has a" co-advancee" and B has a co-gatekeeper. This is applicable in group scenarios wherein A and/or B are a couple or a team.

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YankumiOh
January 23, 2016 (2 years ago)

I like this material. I agree that a "gatekeeper" could be anyone, regardless of gender. :-) Good read. Props!

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LibrongUod
January 23, 2016 (2 years ago)

First time to read about Gatekeeper Theory. Thanks for posting this one, will read further about it on my free time.

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January 24, 2016 (2 years ago)

Gate keeper theory, hmmm... I'm trying to recall if i heard or read it somewhere but naah.
Thanks for posting it.. it's mind filler

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LordDrake
January 24, 2016 (2 years ago)

I first heard the concept from the TV show Cougar Town. The scene in which it was mentioned had the female leads debating the concept with the male leads of the show. It was very short and a bit restrictive, so I kind of expounded on it over the years.

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shobe.sheen
January 24, 2016 (2 years ago)

Interesting theory. :)

When I saw the title, I asked myself what kind of theory this is since I certainly never came across this theory in my psych undergrad. Then, upon reading the entire blog, I found out that you're the proponent of it. :D

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somebodyuused2know
January 24, 2016 (2 years ago)

So if there is a co-advancee and a co-gatekeeper, and the advancee and co-advancee have been given the go signal to enter the gate, then they could have an orgy or swapping to say the least hehehe.

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LordDrake
January 25, 2016 (2 years ago)

Parang anoon na nga  po.

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antoinette
January 24, 2016 (2 years ago)

interesting theory but what exactly is gatekeeper guarding here? if you can expound it para sa medyo tamad maghanap, it might make sense. i think of relationship as employer - employee relations.  kung ayaw mo na give one month's notice. kung pasok ka, then do your role. lol. kung may prob ka na gustong e escalate, then set a meeting invite but list the topics first so i can prepare. lol. (hindi yong nakikipag coordinate ka na sa ibang employer lol).  nasabihan tuloy ako ng lalaki 'im not your employee'.

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LordDrake
January 25, 2016 (2 years ago)

The gatekeeper is guarding whatever is part of her/his "territory". How the term territory is defined depends in the relationship. Pero I first came up with this I was thinking more along the lines of a physical relationship. You can take the term physical anyway you want.

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January 24, 2016 (2 years ago)

In our society it's not easily to enter a woman's realm.Many who think just by good looks,wealth or status means you'll get access in just a few seconds.It may take a lot of tries,some succeed easily yet think of what kind of a world you've entered?Be wary of what is inside for it maybe easy to enter yet it will be very hard to exit from her.
Follow the blind and be in darkness,follow the half blind your still looking for her.Follow the Enlightened and you're in the right path of enjoying her well even when it's time to leave forever.

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February 23, 2018 (4 months ago)

Nice read. 💪🏻

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