One Night

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Date: July 12, 2016 (2 years ago)


Good day po sa lahat. I want to ask for your thoughts and opinion. Thank you po sa mga magrereply and magbabasa.

I am a married guy. My wife and I, weve been together for more than 15 years and I am happy, contented and lucky to be with her. Then, just a few years ago, I met this one girl who happens to make me feel things that I have not yet felt, or yung bang suddenly your world and perception of things changes and bigla na lang everything is different. She is 6 or 7 years younger than me.

I have been faithful to my wife until I met her. Wala naman kaming relationship, but I told her she is special to me and she flatly told me the fact that I am married and we should remain friends. We agreed, but I still like her and continues to do things that shows her that i really feel something about her. Hindi naman siya nagagalit and she let me be.

Then this time, mga 3 or four years na since we met, something happened that confuses me much. Usually, pag nagkikita kami or I am in their hometown for a visit, we are together, and we even slept together, though nothing happened because we just sleep and i just hug her or we just have separate beds in a single room. Sumasama siya lagi sa akin kasi nga wala naman ako ginagawa, I just want her company and we just talk.

Just recently, we were in a room and in the bed, I just woke up already kissing her, and then I stop and ask her if its okay if I kiss her, she just nod and we continue to kiss. Up to a point that the next would be, undressing, then nag stop na din ako. I just hug her so much and whispered in her ear that we should sleep na lang.

Did I do it right? We have not kissed before, then ganun na. In this situation ba, willing na ang girl maki, ah, sex? And is this an indication na she is not a virgin or she have done this before? I stopped becasue I care fo...

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shobe.sheen
July 12, 2016 (2 years ago)

I don't have any intention of sounding self-righteous here, Sir. But your problem isn't as complicated as you think it is.

Do you want to cheat or not? If yes, then go for it. From the looks of it, she's just waiting for you to make a move. On the contrary, if you don't wanna cheat, then keep your distance.

Weigh your options. Foresee the consequences. Take into account your capability to handle things.

Imperfect understanding is often more dangerous than ignorance.

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Ab_Initio
July 12, 2016 (2 years ago)

Thank you mam for the reply. You are correct, that question is really what is needed to be answered. Unfortunately, I tend to complicate things even before. For all the years na magkaibigan kami, I still don't know what it is am looking for, with her. I'm basically cheating na nga kasi I always give time for her and I lie for her. Siguro hindi ko pa kaya ang next step. I never had any relationship kasi other than my wife kaya medyo wala ako alam regarding relationships.

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Falseinertia
July 13, 2016 (2 years ago)

Isip isip muna. Married ka na.

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chino6699
July 12, 2016 (2 years ago)

well said Shobe..either you do it or you dont..walang middle ground with this one.

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nic0819
July 12, 2016 (2 years ago)

Pagisipan mo mabuti gagawin mo.once n nakipagsex ka s kanya mas lalalim n bonding nyo at malamang lamang e ung girl ang talo jan kung d m sya kaya ipaglaban lalo n at sinasabi mo n d ka pa nakapagcheat sa asawa mo not until dumating si girl...if u do really care s kanya,mag isip isip ka.may asawa ka na dalaga pa yata sya.tingnan m lahat ng anggulo.

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Ab_Initio
July 12, 2016 (2 years ago)

Precisely, kaya nga po hindi ko talaga ginawa. Pero next time, baka hind ko na kaya huminto. Salamat sa comment.

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nic0819
July 12, 2016 (2 years ago)

Alam mo n pala gagawin mo next time e bkit nagtanong ka pa n ''what should i do next?'' ...kakaloka...

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Ab_Initio
July 13, 2016 (2 years ago)

Sir, the phrase "What should I do next" is intended to be understand as what should readers would want to do under these premise, not that I don't know what to do next. Humihingi po ako ng opinion at ideas po ninyo para at least madagdagan ang nasa isip ko. Salamat sa pagbasa at reply.

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starst1949
July 12, 2016 (2 years ago)

"To fuck or not to fuck, that is the question, whether its nobler in your mind to suffer from blueballs  or pierce her with your arrow, never mind the outrageous fortune that you could give her" with apologies to Shakespeare.
Seriously, either you go all the way or you stay away. No ifs and buts.  Just tits and butts.  Lol

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Ab_Initio
July 13, 2016 (2 years ago)

Thank you po sir, when it is put that way, nakakatawa siya but you did make it clear.

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honeybunch19
July 12, 2016 (2 years ago)

By the looks of it, you want it, you really do. Konte na lang bibigay ka na. Nagpapapigil ka ba Sir? I don't think anyone could when you decide finally. Walang kahit na anong payo ang tatalab. It will be your decision and you already know it.

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Ab_Initio
July 13, 2016 (2 years ago)

Tama ka po, It is my decision. Sometimes kasi need natin ng boses ng iba para mauntog tayu at mas maintindihan natin bago tayo mag decide. Thanks for the comment.

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anino
July 12, 2016 (2 years ago)

Are you asking us for an approval to have an affair? Buddy, it looks likes she wants it too so why stop there? Are you afraid to cross that bridge because frankly you already did. Go for broke because whatever you do now already breaks your marriage. Man up!

The Wanderer!

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Ab_Initio
July 13, 2016 (2 years ago)

Sir, I am not asking po for an approval, for frankly I too do not approve of an extramarital affair. It does break the marriage and may destroy a family. I may already be in an affair because of this but i think puede ko pa mabawi kasi no harm done pa naman. You are correct to say that Im a little bit of afraid to move forward, it is because I'm married and I still dont know what to do pa. Sometimes I wish hindi ko na lang siya na meet, nagulo pa buhay ko, but then I will not be complete. Salamat po sa reply.

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nic0819
July 13, 2016 (2 years ago)

Nagulo ang buhay mo?E yong buhay nung girl?Palagay mo hnde nagulo?Esep esep...be a man...kung magcheat e magcheat ka at ipaglaban m sya kung kinakailangan.pero kung ayaw mo magcheat,leave the girl.ganun lang.

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Ab_Initio
July 13, 2016 (2 years ago)

I agree, I am a "half-a-man" in this regard. I should let it go na lang and stay out of her life if I can't man up and face the consequences. Thank you for your advise.

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simplewifeissimple
July 13, 2016 (2 years ago)

Newsflash : you're already cheating on your wife...

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Pusanggala
July 13, 2016 (2 years ago)

ay lintek ginagawa mo lang kumplikado ang sarili mong anino brad... if u are afraid then, stop. take care of your wife and raise your family. in that way you give justice to what that girl feels for you. you are married and she is not. that's clear. ang babae ang talo

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Ab_Initio
July 13, 2016 (2 years ago)

I usually complicate things because of my simplemindedness--.  Anyway pag nagcheat naman, both are "talo". Tama ka nga, If i care for her, iwas na lang ako and focus on my family. And i thought madali lang mag cheat. Thank you sir.

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fatima
July 13, 2016 (2 years ago)

Sir its ur decision p rin nmn..2 lng po yan..if mahal mu p wife mu then stop if not cheat..but..mas mainam n hiwalayan mu nlng cia kaysa kinakaliwa mu..think very carefully sir..my masasaktan khit anu desisyon mu..pero pinaka mskit un s wife mu if ever..mahirap po magkamali..

A simple wife needs comfort..

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Ab_Initio
July 13, 2016 (2 years ago)

Akala ko kasi mam, okay na yung ganun. I was happy then sa companionship namin, no physical intimacy needed. But then natakot lang ako bigla sa next step. I guess you're right, things may get serious and somebody will always get hurt. Thank you po sa reply.

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Mr.M
July 13, 2016 (2 years ago)

You are a man who has valued of what a woman is.The same way I think you treat your wife.However,it is best that you walk away than completely destroy something which I think you cherish very much in your life.Sometimes,the beautiful things or situations become ugly when it leads to the wrong direction its heading.

ISO certified DOM and ATC(Ako'y Talagang Cute!)

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Ab_Initio
July 13, 2016 (2 years ago)

Thank you sir. I'm old enough to have experience what life can offer and things others may just wish they did, but in this case, I guess age and maturity is not really everything that you can depend on. I will consider all the responses and thank you for the time.

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charlie27
July 14, 2016 (2 years ago)

Idol!

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BoyBastos79
July 13, 2016 (2 years ago)

... kung itutuloy mo, masasarapan ka, at gugulo ang buhay mo! kung hindi naman atlis sakto lng...

...consequence, iskandalo yan sa buhay, maaring kaya mo to, pero ang karma? - pano kung GAWIN DIN SAYU NG ASAWA MO YAN? MASAYA KA KAYA?

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Ab_Initio
July 14, 2016 (2 years ago)

I got your point, no need to shout po, hehehe. Off topic, regarding kung gagawin yan ng asawa ko, siempre hindi yan maganda. Simple lang din naman ako mag isip. Kung ayaw na sa akin ayaw ko magpilit. I will let her go. It will be her deed and shame, not mine. Vice versa, kung gagawin ko to all way, I will face the consequences. Hindi ko pa po ginawa kaya nga I did not have sex with her kahit puede na. Ayaw ko pa mag commit kaya hindi ko pa siya ginalaw, hence the confession...

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Phaethon
July 14, 2016 (2 years ago)

Gawin ang kayang panindigan. Hirap minsan, saka nagsisisi kapag huli na. An tanong, which regret will you be able to live with? The regret of loosing that woman whom you apparently love, or the regret of loosing your family? Problema lang naman yang problema mo kasi Pilipino tayo. Kung westerner ka, Divorce lang katapat niyan at sangkatutak na alimony. Hahha!

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Phaethon
July 14, 2016 (2 years ago)

Option Pare, pwede kang magconvert sa muslim. Or, lol may kapitbahay ako, asawa niya at kabit niya pinagsama niya sa isang bahay. Hahha. Dun naman sa isang banda.. babae, dalawa kinakasama sa isang bubong. Mga anak niya, tatay tawag sa parehong mama (di ata sigurado kung sino ama). Anyway, all i'm saying is, of you really want it, gagawa ka ng paraan. Patunay na nga yang ginagawa mo. Kabit mo na siya at nagtataksil ka na. Sex is just an excuse or the absence of it para lang masabi na wala ka pang ginagawang masama o mali. But the truth is, you already did and apparently, still at it.

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Ab_Initio
July 15, 2016 (2 years ago)

Well said. Sinasabi ko na nga sa asawa ko kung payag sa sa scheduling, hahaha, joke po. Seriously, thank you sa comment, I am cheating na nga. Sex or no sex, cheating pa din. I will talk to her na lang our options. I will end this soon, sakit sa ulo hehehhe.

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Borealis
July 15, 2016 (2 years ago)

Walk away while or if you still can. "Wag mong gawing komplikado ang buhay mo." Payo yan sakin na hindi ko kayang sundan, baka ikaw kaya mo.
Sakit ng ulo at puso ang kahahantungan mo jan. I should know, we're in the same boat. Alam na dapat tigilan pero mahirap. :)

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Ab_Initio
July 15, 2016 (2 years ago)

Thank you.

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mrnays124
July 15, 2016 (2 years ago)

Sa pananaw ko bilang isang tao, mas maganda muna siguro sir na isipin mo ang pwedeng mawala sa iyo kapag dumating ang puntong matuklasan yan ng misis mo. Bukod pa rito isipin mo rin ang mga bagay na pwedeng bumalik sa iyo sa isang pagkakamaling pwede mong gawin.

Kung masaya ka naman pala sa iyong sitwasyon ngayon ay ano pang iniintindi mo? Kung tutuusin tama sila eh, wala ka namang dapat problemahin dahil madali lang po ang sagot diyan sa iniisip mo.

Mahirap nang makahanap ng tapat na tao! At darating ang panahon na kapag nawala ang misis mo (kapag nagpatuloy ka sa kalokohan mo) ay doon mo lang maiisip ang halaga nito.

Kaya naman habang maaga pa at may pagkakataon ka pa, gawin mo ang tama!

Pwede mo namang gawin ang mga fantasy mo sa misis mo hindi ba? At least mas magiging matibay pa ang inyong relasyon bilang mag-asawa.

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Ab_Initio
July 15, 2016 (2 years ago)

Salamat po.

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chopsaki
July 16, 2016 (1 year ago)

The fact that you stopped means your mind is still in control. Your only solution is to distance yourself from her. Proximity furthers the bond. Though if you still want play with fire then get ready to be burned.

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utnapishtim
July 16, 2016 (1 year ago)

You're right sir. I have decided to tell her that I will need to think about our friendship and will keep my distance muna. I dont kmow kung makaya or what but i owe it to my family and myself to at least try to stop this "kalokohan". Thank you.

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Phaethon
July 16, 2016 (1 year ago)

Haha. Ibang handle? Anyway... wag mo na sabihin at magpapigil ka lang pare. Pag naiyakan ka, wala na. Just do it gradually without notice. Chage sim, dont call dont see her. Regalo mo rin sa kanya. Para makahanap siya ng taong magiging proud na kasama siya. At proud din siya na makasama. Hindi pang tago at maging object ng pangungutya ng kapwa. To be branded as kabit at homewrecker, do you think she deserve it? Kung mahal mo, do it for her. Wag selfish. Unless paannul ka.

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utnapishtim
July 17, 2016 (1 year ago)

sa friend ko to, d ko na online account ko, hahah, nakalimutan ko pass. the hank you sa tip tol

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MidLifeCrisis
July 16, 2016 (1 year ago)

Her willingness to have sex with you is not really an indication that she is no longer a virgin but rather an indication that she is now ready to take your relationship into the next level. She's now comfortable sharing her body with you.

As to the cheating q - well, you know better.

And.I.Care.Not.

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Ab_Initio
July 18, 2016 (1 year ago)

Thank you sir for the comment. I admit pangit yung tanong ko na yan, regarding virginity, hindi naman yun importante at hindi dapat siya tinatanong lalo na at may asawa na ako. You're response and explanation is really simple and true, hindi ko lang naisip agad. Salamat.

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cunt69
July 18, 2016 (1 year ago)

Sir i had a 7 yr affair with a married man.it was such an agony but i didnt blame him coz it was my choice. Be fair to both of them,that's all i can say

Ako'y para kay Alejandro

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Ab_Initio
July 20, 2016 (1 year ago)

Thank you po sa reply. I dont know i I can ask you what happened, but still based on your words, it is not a path I should take or consider. Salamat.

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mr.toxic28
July 19, 2016 (1 year ago)

In that case sir very visible nmn na gusto nya na may mangyari or let say na gusto niya na i take yung risk as a mistress , kasi you are cheating na eversince you give her time and lie for her . pinipigilan mo sarili mo ksi nkokonsensya ka . pero kung tunay na mahal mo asawa mo o tunay na mahalaga sayo pamilya mo . better keep off that women for the sake of your family and for the sake of your consience. yan lng ipapayo ko . tukso yang umalapit sayo wag mo na kagatin

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Ab_Initio
July 20, 2016 (1 year ago)

Actually sir, I feel bad kasi hindi naman ako tumigil kasi nakokonsensiya ako. I don't know bakit ganun. Ang alam ko, tumigil ako kasi siya ang naisip ko at para sa sarili ko din. I admit selfish siguro nga. Tumigil ako kasi ayaw ko siya umasa and natakot din ako. I was with her for the company and natakot ako bigla sa physical intimacy. Thank you po sa comment.

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methuselah
August 17, 2016 (1 year ago)

@Ab_Initio, if not for your confession I would not be here.  In this forum. This is my first post. Your article made a negative impact on me, the reason for which it is up to anybody to guess, and I shall not confirm/deny whatever assumptions anyone has about my response or my life for that matter.

I can only say, that from experience of 30+ years in this world, I can conclude that whatever you think about life, the answer is wrong. Absolutely NOTHING can prepare you for it.  What you think now or before will change the more you live in this world. As food can turn rancid, so does our heart mind and character.  You can not rely on yourself anymore than you can rely on anyone. Am I saying do not rely on your love for your wife or do not rely on your own judgment? Maybe. Everything is arbitrary, nothing is truly tangible, what you have now will be gone and what you will have might be your destiny or your failure.  To sin or not is not the question.

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minotaur
May 3, 2017 (1 year ago)

Best thing to do? Stay away or at least dont sleep in the same room.

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